Dear Dr. Greg -- I've got a small penis!

Dear Dr. Greg,

The reason why I am basically scared sexless is because of having a small penis. I am so tired of being rejected after having sex with guys because of this. It pisses me off cause people tell me, "Oh that can't be true." They asure me that I'll find someone someday. When, the truth is that I know I won't, it's just common sense. I have met some great guys in my life so far. And most of the time after we have had sex they stopped talking to me. As if it's my fault that I wasn't blessed with a giant cock. I'm not putting myself down, I'm just facing reality. Doe you have any advice?

Penis size is a form of power in the gay male community and used in every way from pushing porn flicks and to humiliating bosses. Being rejected over and over sounds like it has left you feeling defeated. It’s time to build success. You have several options: 1) Find someone who likes small penises; 2) Find someone who likes something else about you; 3) Go solo.

To find someone who likes small penises, pre-screen. Take out a personal ad or look on the internet sites. Don’t hide your size, but don’t be defensive about it either. Be specific about who you are and what you have, but be general about what you seek. To widen your pool of potential suitors, develop other things such as your mind, body, and sexual techniques. When it comes to sex, gay men can be pretty genitally-focused, but beautiful packaging can make a small gift quite meaningful. Lastly, if you don’t want to through all that trouble, work on being OK with being alone.

In any case, make peace with yourself and your body. There are websites such as www.measurection.com that give support for men struggling with this issue. Your feelings of frustration are understandable, but don’t let a more difficult path keep you from making a valuable journey. And one more thing, it's time to start letting go of the anger you have for these other people just because their minds and hearts appear to be so small.